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不让孩子玩耍将扼杀其天性

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每当看到年轻夫妇们领着小孩去学琴、学画、学外语、学跳舞、学唱歌，挤车赶路，求人花钱，风风火火赶场子的样子，顿生颇多感慨。

家有读书郎，急坏爹和娘，这是中国大多数家长的写照。为了孩子的成长，父母真是费尽心机，可他们更多的时候并没有急到点子上，甚至往往像“太平洋上的警察”，对孩子管得太多、太细，把孩子挤占得没有一点空间。

大学生家教中心的调查显示，不少家长承认自己在孩子心目中的形象就是警察，稍微宽松一点，就当“裁判”和“严师”。一些家长到了与孩子“同进同出”的地步，盯住孩子。这种“严防死守”的战略，如今正成为许多家长管教孩子的经验。据《知心姐姐》杂志社最近完成的一项读书调查显示，一半以上的被访中小学生家长为自己孩子的学习着急上火，认为孩子只知道“贪玩”，不着急学习。但是，针对中小学生的调查结果却显示，72.3 ％的被访中小学生却认为自己一直在为学习、考试而紧张、焦虑。

这样造成的结果是什么呢？一是孩子的天性被逐渐扼杀。玩耍，这本该是孩子的天性，如今不少孩子偏偏就没有这种天性，长的要么是胖墩儿，要么像“豆芽菜”。他们过早地戴上了沉重的希望和功利的学习枷锁，致使他们的创新意识和想象能力减退。二是造成沟通障碍。大多数学生家长和孩子之间沟通不畅，相互理解不够，存在着认识上的巨大差异。在家里，每个家长都会自觉不自觉地把学习作为中心词，千言万语浓缩成一句话，那就是“好好学习，争取考上好学校”。其他几乎无话可说，而孩子们也不愿意跟父母诉说心事，父母和孩子之间成了这样一种契约关系，即我给你吃、给你穿，满足你的一切需要，但你要给我好好学习，争口气，上大学。一旦孩子“失约”，父母就“翻脸不认人”，非打即骂，或者诉苦。三是造成能力缺失。日本教育孩子有句名言：“除了阳光和空气是大自然的赐予，其他一切都要通过劳动获得。”但家长把孩子管得这样紧，而且仅限于学习上，学生的其他社会能力能发展吗？结果，孩子上了大学还不敢独自出门，上学还要请保姆，这是我们需要的教育吗？只有真正把属于孩子的空间还给他们，让他们从单一的学习中解放出来，让他们的生活变得丰富多彩，让孩子成为自己的主人，他们才能真正成长起来。

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